史坦必徳小径
01 June 2015
23 May 2015
29 April 2015
放下
相传有一个小和尚和他的得道高僧师傅一起去化缘。一路上，小和尚觉得师傅处处都对，句句说得有理，对他敬仰有加，内心无比崇拜。他们到了一条小河边，看到一个姑娘想过河，试试探探过不去，老和尚就问她，姑娘，你是不是想过河？我背你过去，说完就背着姑娘过河了。小和尚看得瞠目结舌，觉得老和尚这样做不合适，又不敢问，就这样在心里嘀咕了十里地，还是不敢问，走过了二十里地时，还是不知道怎么说出口，到三十里地的时候，他实在忍不住了，于是说：“师傅，我怎么也想不明白，一个得道高僧，怎么能背一个女人过河呢？”师傅微微一笑，说，：你看，我背她过了河，马上就放下了，你比我多背了三十里地，到现在还放不下。”
人生就是这样，有的事一生只做一次，但却笼罩于心，象那个小和尚，时过境迁，心里还是被过往的事所牵绊，无法释怀。而有的人一生做许多事，冲击而过，心无障碍，象那个老和尚，拿得起放得下，心胸豁达宽广。
不要当那小和尚，要当老和尚
27 April 2015
26 April 2015
谢谢
在一起
两个本毫不认识人能结合，凑在一起，套一句老套的说法，就是缘分。互相吸引，互相好奇，互相想尝试一下，看看对方是不是自己一直在等的那个人。
分开
两个本来在一起的人，最后走上分开的路，再套一句老套的话，或许是因缘分已尽。本以为可以一直一起走下去的路，走到了一半，却发现这条路已到了尽头，面前的是一堵穿越不了的墙。
这堵墙，何时开始砌起来的，何时筑成的，两个人可能都不知道。直到墙出现了，才明白路，已走完了。
两个人在这段路上一定经历了很多很多快乐的时光；一起尝过的美食，一起探索过的地方，一起看过的电影，一起照顾彼此的一切。这些是没法否定的，因它们确实发生过，也感受过。
但可惜，这路上发生的不会只有这些快乐的时光，一定会有不愉快的事。重点是彼此能不能包容，彼此能不能迁就。
以前，朋友们同我倾述他们的问题时，我都会说，Everything comes in a package. If you like the good stuff, you must also accept the negative ones that come with it. Nothing is perfect. Do not try to change the other person, because that is the way he/she was when you started to fall for him/her. But if you start to feel that the negatives are overpowering the good stuff despite all your effort, then perhaps it is time to let go. 这就像你买促销机票一样。便宜的机票常常会有限制，如飞行时间不理想。如果你可以迁就那不理想的飞行时间，那你就可以买这个票价的机票。如果你觉得飞行时间真的搭配不来，那就不要买这个促销。不要尝试改促销的机制，如加多一点钱改更好的时间，因到头来，机票未必还便宜。一样的道理也用在感情上。
或许，我错了。错在企图改变自己，企图改变对方，企图把两个人改变成与原来版本不一样，以为这样就能让路继续走下去。但我却忘了自己说过的话，就是不要尝试改变对方和自己。改了之后，还是之前想走在一起的那两个人吗？
不会忘记一起走过的快乐时光，因那些时候我知道自己是真的开心的。我很简单，开心就是开心，我装不出来。所以我会保存那些美好记忆，因那曾经是我很享受的阶段。
谢谢你给过我的开心记忆。希望我们能各自找到自己的路走下去。不管我们之间发生过什么事，还是谢谢你。
19 April 2015
Passing of my Sergeant Major
It was with shock and sadness that I read about the passing of my former Sergeant Major, MWO Jude Sebastian Vincent at the age of 49.
MWO Jude, then a SSG, was my first CSM while on active duty, back in 1994, with D Coy, 2 Signal Battalion. Being a 菜鸟, SSG Jude always projected an imposing figure on me. A disciplinarian he is, he always made sure we toe the line. There was once during my first deployment exercise, he had to double up as the vehicle commander for my vehicle as I was untrained then and thus unable to assume that role. Before moving off, saw him reaching behind his helmet to look for the goggle that was supposed to be there as it will get dusty with all the mud and sand kicked up. But, goggle there was not, we forgot to place it there, so he had to move off without one. We sure got a good one from him after the exercise and henceforth we made sure the goggles are always with the helmets.
But it was not long after that I began to discover the funny man inside him. He was always able to crack funny jokes. I will never forget his infectious laughter every time he saw some funny parts while watching movies in the mess. Cannot remember who initiated, but the whole company actually made a last minute decision to rush down to Bugis to catch "Independence Day" and we even had to split up to occupy the seats at the 1st few rows. I can still remember after the movie, someone said, 'Moral of the story; always install anti-virus' and we all laughed, including SSG Jude.
Towards the end of my stay at D Coy, he went on the Jungle Confidence Course. When he came back, he recounted his experiences to us. How he had to lay traps to catch animals for food, how he had to kill a chicken and defeather it. He claimed the course was a torture as he did not have enough to eat! But we all know he said it in jest and he actually enjoyed it,
I did not have a chance to work with him again after I was posted out in 1995. Even though we were both back in the same unit at School of Signals in 1998, being in different departments meant we only did the occasional hi-byes.
I cannot remember when was the last time I met SSG Jude, or MWO Jude now. I guess it was probably during Michael Loy's wedding dinner. On and off I saw photos of him on FB but we were never 'friends' on FB. Never did I expect the next news I have of him would be that of his passing.
MWO Jude's untimely departure had left a gap in the life of those around him. His family had lost its leader, SAF had lost a loyal serviceman and the Signals family had lost a family member.
MWO Jude, then a SSG, was my first CSM while on active duty, back in 1994, with D Coy, 2 Signal Battalion. Being a 菜鸟, SSG Jude always projected an imposing figure on me. A disciplinarian he is, he always made sure we toe the line. There was once during my first deployment exercise, he had to double up as the vehicle commander for my vehicle as I was untrained then and thus unable to assume that role. Before moving off, saw him reaching behind his helmet to look for the goggle that was supposed to be there as it will get dusty with all the mud and sand kicked up. But, goggle there was not, we forgot to place it there, so he had to move off without one. We sure got a good one from him after the exercise and henceforth we made sure the goggles are always with the helmets.
But it was not long after that I began to discover the funny man inside him. He was always able to crack funny jokes. I will never forget his infectious laughter every time he saw some funny parts while watching movies in the mess. Cannot remember who initiated, but the whole company actually made a last minute decision to rush down to Bugis to catch "Independence Day" and we even had to split up to occupy the seats at the 1st few rows. I can still remember after the movie, someone said, 'Moral of the story; always install anti-virus' and we all laughed, including SSG Jude.
Towards the end of my stay at D Coy, he went on the Jungle Confidence Course. When he came back, he recounted his experiences to us. How he had to lay traps to catch animals for food, how he had to kill a chicken and defeather it. He claimed the course was a torture as he did not have enough to eat! But we all know he said it in jest and he actually enjoyed it,
I did not have a chance to work with him again after I was posted out in 1995. Even though we were both back in the same unit at School of Signals in 1998, being in different departments meant we only did the occasional hi-byes.
I cannot remember when was the last time I met SSG Jude, or MWO Jude now. I guess it was probably during Michael Loy's wedding dinner. On and off I saw photos of him on FB but we were never 'friends' on FB. Never did I expect the next news I have of him would be that of his passing.
MWO Jude's untimely departure had left a gap in the life of those around him. His family had lost its leader, SAF had lost a loyal serviceman and the Signals family had lost a family member.
typical MWO Jude with his smile
My only photo with him, back in 1994
A Tribute made by one of his many friends
RIP MWO Jude, Bring your laughter along to wherever you are now.
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